More often than not both as men and women we close one chapter ready to move on to the next but something or someone gets in the way of that. The “ex”! Just when you thought you were ready to venture out into the dating arena, or perhaps embrace being single and opening your schedule a bit so that you can mingle, an unexpected call or txt (maybe a visit) interrupts your new flow leaving you stunned. What are you to do now when your ex finally realized that he/she misses you and wants to repair what is broken or salvage what’s left of your friendship. This feeling is the worst; it’s one of those instances where you feel as if you’re caught between a rock and a hard place. At this point you’re also questioning whether or not you should have ended your relationship in the first place. The worst part of this is that you are debating whether to go back to what was comfortable or to try something new which is frightening for anyone. And I don’t literally mean frightening, but perhaps you’re ashamed that you fear being alone or potential rejection when you do try to pursue someone new.
***Stop waiting around for some sort of sign or an epiphany to happen! It’s time to close the chapter that was full of good times as well as arguing, unfaithfulness or overall unhappiness. Now, I’m not saying this will be an easy task; it may take a while to muster up the courage to confront the ex and let them know that you’re done with them for good or maybe you want to keep them around as a friend (more friends wouldn’t hurt). But, now is the time to look at the person in the mirror and find out what he/she truly wants out of life, love, and future relationships. Take your time, like grandma says “haste makes waste”, so don’t be hasty but be assertive in your approach to this situation and do things that make you happy.
Suggestions…
· “Me time” at least once a week do something that you really enjoy whether its treating yourself to a day at the salon, playing video games, going to a sporting event, swimming, going to a concert etc.
· Going out with a group of friends to a party, club or any other social gathering
· Changing up your weekly routine
· Pursing a new hobby or an old one that you’ve put to the side for a while
· Joining organizations/clubs to surround yourself with a new group of people
***SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE! Smiling and energy is contagious so if you’re in the presence of positivity it will definitely rub off on you.
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