"Diary of a Black Girl" by Wale
Regardless of ethnicity, black, white, brown, and everything in between, females continually deal with the pain of the past and the complexity of moving forward. Yes, females use the past to guide them in future relationships. Is this always the right solution, you can be the judge. But, when you have been hurt time and time again, it’s hard to trust the next guy who promises to be you’re “everything and more”. “Yeah, yeah, yeah, I’ve heard it all before! What makes you so different?” This is the question that stays in our mind as the next guy approaches us with a smooth line, a comforting personality or a shoulder to cry on. Years of relationships with men with different shades and the same character leave a woman of any color resistant to the idea of the chase. We as women have the bad habit of putting up a wall so that we can never be hurt again. This wall is put up as a defense mechanism the same way a chameleon changes colors to hide from being the next animals prey. Even if it’s not our own experience, we all know someone who’s boyfriend cheated on them or that friend that has gone through numerous heartbreaks that we doubt that she’ll ever give her heart away again.
Regardless of ethnicity, black, white, brown, and everything in between, females continually deal with the pain of the past and the complexity of moving forward. Yes, females use the past to guide them in future relationships. Is this always the right solution, you can be the judge. But, when you have been hurt time and time again, it’s hard to trust the next guy who promises to be you’re “everything and more”. “Yeah, yeah, yeah, I’ve heard it all before! What makes you so different?” This is the question that stays in our mind as the next guy approaches us with a smooth line, a comforting personality or a shoulder to cry on. Years of relationships with men with different shades and the same character leave a woman of any color resistant to the idea of the chase. We as women have the bad habit of putting up a wall so that we can never be hurt again. This wall is put up as a defense mechanism the same way a chameleon changes colors to hide from being the next animals prey. Even if it’s not our own experience, we all know someone who’s boyfriend cheated on them or that friend that has gone through numerous heartbreaks that we doubt that she’ll ever give her heart away again.
***Now I can’t claim that I have always given guys a chance when they approach me. But, I can say to my fellow women that by not giving that next guy a chance you could be missing out on someone potentially great for you. So be cautious, but at the same time be open to the idea of someone new trying to pursue you for YOU and nothing more.
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